Amy and the Pink Trailer

If you haven’t checked out the PINK TRAILER that is being raffled on February 14, please log on to this website:

The proceeds from this raffle will be used to help Amy and her family meet the financial challenges that accompany cancer treatment.  It is a great trailer and a great cause.  The tickets for the drawing are only $5.00.  As I mentioned in previous posts, I seldom personally endorse fund raising efforts unless I personally know the people involved and are sure they are trustworthy.

Amy is preparing physically, emotionally, and spiritually for her first surgery.  She shares in her journal her fears, her concerns, her hopes, and her faith.  Amy has been a Mary Kay director and has well learned some of the life  lessons presented to us as we learn ‘how to sell lipstick’. One of the many aspects of being part of Mary Kay is learning how to set goals and understanding what we need to to do to reach them. This lesson has not been lost on Amy.

She is very focused on what she personally needs to do in order to reach her goal of living to see her children grow up and being a part of their lives as they do so.  She knows that she must endure very difficult chemo treatments and a series of surgeries and then more chemo.  She understands that she must focus on doing whatever it takes to get well.  She is doing just that.

I am so very proud of you Amy.  I know that Mary Kay would be proud of you as well.

Setting Boundries

Amy is a minister’s wife and up until she received her cancer diagnosis, was a Mary Kay director.  Because of her ‘people’ personality, she has many friends who know and love her.  She has always been easily accessible by phone and has always welcomed people into her home.

However, when she received her cancer diagnosis, I witnessed a change in her accessibility which I initially respected, but have come to admire.  Amy decided that she could not repeatedly talk to everyone who called about her cancer.  She could not welcome every guest who wanted to drop by to express their concern.   She knew that her number one priority was to beat cancer and conserving her physical and emotional strength is a necessary part of her recovery.

Therefore she seldom answers the phone or doorbell.  She answers emails when she feels like it, and she keeps a journal on  If a church member wanted to support Amy and Brent with food, they coordinated it with one person rather that just dropping it by the house.

Let me be clear here. It is not that Amy is shutting people out of her life.  She does talk to people, but she does it on her own terms, i.e., when she has the strength, or when it is convenient.   She keeps people up to date on how she is feeling and how her treatment is going by way of  journal entries.  Amy is still just as much a people person as before, and she totally appreciates all the cards, emails, comments left on Caringbridge, and so many other ways support and love is shown to her.

I appreciate  Amy setting this type of example for us.  We do not have to be a ‘slave’ to the telephone and doorbell.  We do not have to let it drain our emotional and physical strength.  We can choose to walk down the path of cancer or serious illness at least to some extent on our own terms.  We can choose to do what is best for us.

You go, Amy!