Oh, it is so hard to put a smile on your face when your heart is breaking. Trying to make the best of what seems to be the worst of circumstances is very very difficult. Knowing that this might be the last holiday with a family member, or realizing that this is the first of many holidays without a family member, is hard.
If you family is in the midst of heartache and sadness because of illness or loss, then you understand the challenges of the next few weeks.
Please know that you do not have to be perfect during this time. If you have a ‘come apart’ and your emotions take total control, if you suddenly feel angry or frustrated, if you feel overwhelming sadness, or if things just don’t feel right, allow yourself to take a step back and look at your situation. It is totally understandable to feel as you do, but work to not allow yourself to dwell on the sadness, anger, or frustration. Your loved family member would want you to focus instead on the enjoyable moments of the holiday, making the ‘best’ of things.